Does book blogging enable anti-social behavior?
Posted April 16, 2011
on:I know i’m not the first (or second, or third or tenth or hundredth) person to come up with this, but does reading (and then book blogging) enable antisocial activity? Sure, we talk about books we read and enjoy, and often start conversations with strangers over the summer reading table at Barnes & Noble, but that’s like a 10 minute conversation only after 8 hours of reading.
I’m already a fairly non-social person, does my love for reading (a solitary activity if ever there was one) enable me to be even less social? I’m not a complete hermit, I do hang out with friends quite often (well, often for me). I do get out of the house. But compared to a lot of people I know, I’m pretty non-social.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy the company of others. Just sometimes I enjoy my book more.
I’m sure most of you have been in this situation: you’re at work, peacefully eating your lunch in the break-room on at the picnic table out back, thrilled to have to time to enjoy your new book. You’d think the “nose in the book” look would give the tactful impression of “kindly leave me alone”, right? A co-worker (I’m guilty too, I did this to someone last week, and felt awful when the conversation went more than a few minutes) will invariably and usually loudly plop down next to you and ask “whatcha reading?” and a discussion of the book deprives you of your only quiet time of the day to enjoy said book.
On that note, what the hell is wrong with not being super-social? “anti-social” has such a negative ring to it, maybe I should use the word non-social instead. It seems like the parenting tip of “sign your toddler up for day care so they can learn to socialize!” has turned into the idea that adults who don’t socialize as much as possible are defective in some way. That our parents only signed us up for a half hour of daycare once a week when we were 2 years old, so we grew up to be raving anti-social bibliophiles. Or something.
Do you consider yourself to be social? Not very social? Would you rather sometimes spend the afternoon with a book than a person? Has “getting serious about this book blogging thing” enabled you to be even less social than before, because damn it, you really need to finish this book so you can get the review started!
18 Responses to "Does book blogging enable anti-social behavior?"
I’m not a hugely social person, but I do try to adhere to a people-over-books policy. If I’m reading in public and a friend comes over, I put the book down and spend time with my friend. Even if I’m at the absolute bestest part EVER.
I try to give random people the same courtesy, but it’s hard. Last year, I had an incident where a student came up to me while I was on my break and started asking me about a job posting (for my job, actually; I’d just quit). I did my best to answer her politely, but she’d come up to me right when the main character’s heart was breaking into a thousand itty bitty pieces. I just wanted to sit there and cry.
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A great post!
I’m not sure whether I’d call myself a non-social person and whether it is related to my reading. The thing is, ever since I learned to read, I’ve never stopped reading as much as I can. So, basically, I’ve been like this since I can remember. 🙂
I enjoy spending time with my friends and have a lot of activities I attend regularly but when social activities start taking me away from my reading I get cranky and I’m generally then a not very nice to be around.
I need to read in order to be able to function socially. Does that make sense?
P.S. I’ve been known for prefering books to human company. 🙂
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Personally I’ve never felt reading had anything to do with one being a more or less social person. I think if a person is naturally geared towards having a certain amount of “me” time built into their day then they are going to find it whether it be reading or some other hobby or simply just being alone. If reading has any effect at all I’ve always felt that it gave a person to be a chance to be more social because of finding other book lovers and sparking natural conversation with them. I certainly have a few very good friends that I never would have connected with otherwise had not we discovered in each other a shared love of books.
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1 | Shara White (Calico Reaction)
April 16, 2011 at 8:37 am
I’m sure most of you have been in this situation: you’re at work, peacefully eating your lunch in the break-room on at the picnic table out back, thrilled to have to time to enjoy your new book. You’d think the “nose in the book” look would give the tactful impression of “kindly leave me alone”, right? A co-worker (I’m guilty too, I did this to someone last week, and felt awful when the conversation went more than a few minutes) will invariably and usually loudly plop down next to you and ask “whatcha reading?” and a discussion of the book deprives you of your only quiet time of the day to enjoy said book.
OMG YES!!
This happened all the freakin’ time at my old job, and it drove me bonkers. Furthermore, it wasn’t like the people were really INTERESTED in what I was reading, they just didn’t have anyone else to sit with and I was there and they couldn’t stand to be by themselves so they interrupted me. It drove me BONKERS.
I don’t have this problem now, but I feel your pain. There is a certain level of anti-sociability to being a reader. For example, I’ve wanted to read at places where my husband’s said would be BAD TIMES, like during my nephew’s or niece’s teeball games. But on the flip side, this might be antisocial behavior, but people like you describe and the same people I deal with, the ones who interrupt? I suspect there’s a case for people being TOO social, people who don’t know how to be by themselves and therefore, in a twisted way, aren’t socialized properly either.
If the interrupter was really a friend, I wouldn’t mind. Nor would I mind if the interrupter was someone REALLY interested in books. But when it’s just an excuse for the interrupter to have someone to talk to? I’m happy to be antisocial! 🙂
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